This post is more than likely going to get me trolled, but here goes.
The truth is, our house has been hit by an epidemic.
From waking to hitting the sack, my daughter is out and out ‘princess’.
Daily activities include:
- Dressing up as Elsa, Anna, Belle or any other generic princess
- Proclaiming “I am a princess’
- Watching any TV programmes or films featuring princesses
- Obsessively reading stories of palaces and fairytales
- Making up conversations between her princess figurines
And so on…
What do I think of the princess phase?
I fully support it.
The same way I support and encourage any of her other creative and imaginative interests. Like playing Doctors or shopkeepers.
She’s two years old.
Why am I writing this post?
This may be controversial, but I’ve recently noticed an increase in blogs or posts badmouthing little girls being thought of as princesses.
Posts telling us that we should stop encouraging princess role play and give them a toy car instead.
People having a go at brands for selling girls clothing with female-orientated slogans adorned onto them.
Or complaining that little girls are modelling the princess or nurse’s dress, and boys are the builders or firemen.
According to one post I read, you should never call you daughter ‘Princess’. If you do you are setting them up for a fall when they realise the world will not treat them like royalty. You are telling them that they are ‘passive ornaments’. They will grow up thinking that they have one function; breeding. You will raise a spoilt brat who thinks her parents’ money will solve all her problems.
To me, this all seems just a little bit over the top.
Especially when some little girls actually want to wear / play those games.
Where’s it all come from?
Maybe it’s a sign that we are standing up against stereotyping. Great – I’m all for that. I mean, didn’t we all want to be car mechanics like Charlene Ramsey in the 80s?
Perhaps it’s a response to the growing trend of both male and female feminists. Awesome – women are getting opportunities that they’d never have had before. Please keep fighting for that.
Completely, it’s because we live in a world of free speech and it’s totally OK to have an opinion, even if you are a girl.
But for years now, I’ve had friends not be dressing their girl in pink or giving them dollies, or buying their sons little buggies and babies. Both of which are equally fine and I for one would never criticise other people’s parenting styles.
The point is though, that if it is something that you feel strongly about, just get on with it.
You don’t need to suggest crazy talk that girls are good for nothing but breeding if they dare to want to be called ‘Princess’ as part of a game.
You do not need to make others feel judged if they don’t agree with you.
If I as a parent do buy a princess dress for my daughter, it is really none of your business.
I am certainly not suggesting that she will never have a career or be taken seriously as an individual, or that only boys can be doctors.
I am just allowing my little girl to play with her favourite toy and enjoy a bit of fantasy while her life is so simple.
So it IS OK to call your child ‘Princess’ then?
This might not be your opinion, but mine is that yes, it’s perfectly healthy.
I agree that you should never impose thoughts and ideals onto the spongy little minds of the next generation. I’m on board with that. Especially where we might be passing on prejudice about race, religion, background or generally how to treat people.
But what happens if I’ve encouraged my daughter to embrace all genre of toys and she’s decided to follow a traditional stereotype?
Am I supposed to say no, snatch the frilly dress away and provide her with a tool belt?
Or when she tells me she wants to be called “Princess Doctor Elsa”, do I make her cry by not playing along?
Because to me, that doesn’t feel very neutral.
Our kids are growing up in a different world where irrespective of gender, colour or disability, opportunities are vast.
So claiming that allowing your daughter to pick a pet name (that is used the world over), is some kind of sin, seems a tad unnecessary.
Lady P likes all sorts of toys and stories. She is often a doctor or a driver. In fact, as we’ve been having some work done at our house, she’s even played as a builder. Yet she still comes back to wanting to be a princess.
We just have a girly girl.
So I am telling you now, that replacing her Elsa dress with a cowboy outfit would not a welcome activity!
And besides, I am pretty sure it won’t take her very long to figure out that there aren’t loads of princess vacancies, and she might, just might have to pick another career path.
Do you agree that princess really aren’t so bad?