When you become pregnant there seem to be some rules that you have to follow.
Or rather that other people think you should.
According to my Instagram feed, you are supposed to make a big public announcement at 12 weeks, share bump pics each week, plan a gender reveal event, throw a baby shower and share with the world and his dog your weekly updates.
Or, news just in… you could just do it your own way.
Baby news in the media
There seems to be a few takes on sharing baby news when you are a celebrity.
Go for it as soon as you are public and milk it for everything going; most reality TV stars.
Feel obliged to share news to avoid speculation and being hounded by the press; Kate Middleton.
Take a cautious approach and say nothing until it becomes blatantly obvious; Zara Phillips and Cheryl.
There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ approach.
When I was pregnant with my girl, I started this blog.
I began it as my way of documenting what I was going through for her to read one day, but nobody I knew ‘in real life’ would be reading it.
It was purposely anonymous and I didn’t share it with anyone I knew. I just didn’t want to forget those important events rather that to draw attention to them.
My social media feed was not just about my bump. I only really shared anything bump-related occasionally. It might have been captured in someone else’s pictures, a few holiday snaps, or when I really got fed up whilst overdue.
This time around, I’ve stuck my fingers up at ‘the rules’ again and taken pretty much the same approach.
I’ve decided not to write much about it, and also any pics I share have been more about a situation rather than the bump and its progress.
In fact, when people have actually found out I am expecting, they’ve been quite shocked that I’m as far along as I am without them knowing. I’m sure there will be a lot of people who have no idea and will only find out once he’s arrived.
But that’s my call
It’s my decision as to how, when and where I share my pregnancy news.
I’ve had a really tough time getting this far again to be honest. The last few years have seen a lot of heartache through loss, and I’ve not wanted to take anything for granted.
So quite simply, our baby news has been kept a little under wraps apart from those close to us or friends I hang out with regularly.
So what do I think of other people publicly updating the world on each event in their own pregnancies?
I get it.
They are excited. Over the moon, in fact. And quite rightly.
Their pregnancies are the most important things in their lives that they want to tell the world.
But it’s 100% a personal decision.
You shouldn’t feel as though you have to make your bump the sole star of your social media accounts just because others do.
It doesn’t make you any less happy about it.
You don’t have to share images of your changing body and put them up for public feedback.
You can, if you like, be just as delighted, and only tell people when you see them or who you choose.