I am pretty organised when it comes to important dates.
I bulk buy the year’s important birthday cards in one go. Everyone’s birthdays or wedding anniversaries are in my phone calendar. Each event has a reminder 2 days before so that I can remember to send the card and/or present, and also on the day so that I can wish the person a happy day.
The recipient addresses are also in my phone so that if I get caught out, I can send one on the go whenever the reminder pings.
When it comes to my own birthday though, I couldn’t care less whether I get a greetings card or not.
I think I’ve just outgrown them.
Gone are the days where I felt that receiving cards was a sign of my popularity.
All they do now is just remind me that I am getting older. Or that since last birthday I’ve still not seen the sender like we said we would in the last card.
Whilst I am always grateful when I do get cards and presents, a text message would do.
Greetings cards actually get on my nerves
Yep, you did read that properly. I find cards to be irritating for a number of reasons.
- They stress me out – The bulk buying stresses me out when I am trying to remember everyone’s dates and ages. I have also mislaid them in the house just when I need them too.
- I might not get the ‘right one’ – A card is a card, or so I thought. Apparently in other families (my in-laws), a card has to specifically address ‘Mummy’ or include flowers, and can never just be a blank one.
- They require posting, like, NOW – A written card on the kitchen surface that needs to get that day’s post puts me on edge until it is safely in the post box.
- They clutter up the house – Just another thing I have to remove my address from and eventually put in the recycling. And when the cat keeps knocking them over… Grrrr.
- People actually read them – I am all for the gesture of remembering someone on a special day, but I can never think of anything interesting to write. The usual “have a great day” is pretty standard.
- I might write them messily – Or worst, misspell another word hastily thinking of something to write.
- You risk hoarding them – I have a few cards that I want to keep; first Mother’s Day, wedding cards etc. but the risk is that you want to keep them all, and then what? Another box up the attic.
I’ll still send them though
If you’re reading this and thinking that I will never send you a card again, that’s not the case.
I’m not really bothered about receiving them, but I know that some people really them.
And when it comes to Lady P, like my Mum does with me, I’ll always send her a card.
The excitement at opening another Elsa or Peppa Pig card is worth overcoming the 7 points I make above. I’ll never find it to be a chore to send her one.
But I want her to know that she doesn’t have to send me one. As she gets older, if she forgets or misses the post, it’s really OK.
There will be no ‘cardgate’ fallouts.
I’m all for online birthday cards instead. They can be done last minute and place less of a burden on my recycling bin!
Or of course, I’d always love to receive a card she made out of paper, glue and handprints for as long as she wants to make me one.
Are you a ‘card person’?