Mum sided parenting
Like most devoted Mummies, I’m sure you can relate to the streams of endless photographs and videos you take of your child.
I’m sure you watch on a super excited homecoming welcome for Daddy after the end of a long day.
I’m sure you can relate to trying to battle with a toddler to get them to look at the iPad to FaceTime Nana, rather than lick the screen.
I am sure that although you take 20 photos a day, your own face is very rarely in any of them.
I’m sure that you get the arts and crafts out to paint pictures to send to Grandparents or make homemade birthday cards. And then have to tidy it all away again.
It’s fair to say that even if you have a very hands-on Daddy in your house, it often feels like other people get the benefit of your ‘everyday’ parenting; they get the good bits. You get them too, but also get all of the other more mundane bits.
So when Lady P recently spent the weekend with her Daddy and my in-laws, I got a glimpse of parenting from the other side.
I got to hear what she sounds like talking down the other end of the phone.
I got to FaceTime her and see her excited little smile.
I got to see photos (that I didn’t take) being added to Facebook.
And I got to come home to her and get those excited little cuddles.
Although I hate being away from Lady P, and can honestly say it’s only been a handful of times, sometimes I think it’s a good thing – for both of us.
For me, I get to be a little of the person I once was, either popping out to the shops or drinks with friends without having to worry about what to bring for a little person.
For her, she gets time with other members of our family or friends, and gets spoilt absolutely rotten.
For both of us, we miss each other like crazy but then get those amazing excited feelings when we are to be reunited again.
I wouldn’t want it to be too regular though!